The bottom line with the Court System and how they choose the parent most advantageous for the child to spend time with… or, to be awarded primary custody… may be determined by which parent they feel can maintain the ‘best interest of the child’ while accurately advocating for them as well as for themselves; according to Byrd, Esq., K. & Payne, R. (2018).
Byrd also brings to ‘light’ the added challenge for the court of when it becomes obvious that one or more members of the child’s family, especially the parent, may also have ‘undiagnosed’ autism. The ‘Asperger’s Syndrome’ traits of seeming to be highly intelligent and ‘obsessively in need to control’ things and others in their environment.
This challenge can increase when both parents seem to demonstrate the inability to participate in a give-and-take situation, nor show flexibility instead of rigidity and egocentricity, due to their own struggle with autism. Added to that, when one or more members of the family are having their typical ‘good days’ and ‘bad days’ then the court may become concerned for the impact on the child.
< My Thoughts > “…‘good days’ and ‘bad days’”
At this point, I wish to share more about “…‘good days’ and ‘bad days’”. This is a Focused Excerpt from my Extended Book Review of –
Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time, by Mark Haddon; eBook 2003 Edition. An Extended Book Review with < My Thoughts > by Sara Luker
Excerpts from the book (11% indicates location in the Kindle version of the book, instead of page numbers).
11% 4 red cars in a row made it a Good Day, and 3 red cars in a row made it a Quite Good Day and 5 red cars in a row made it a Super Good Day, and 4 yellow cars in a row made it a Black Day which is a day when I don’t speak to anyone and sit on my own reading books and don’t eat my lunch and Take No Risks.
< My Thoughts > About rituals…
Wolff, Hupp, & Symons (2012) explain that ritual and compulsive behaviors may be considered ‘functionally avoidant’ because they serve the person by preventing some future advent. They believe that the person performs the ritual when they are unable to effectively communicate what they are feeling.
Christopher perceived his rituals as both creating and avoiding future events. Dr. Ronit Levy, Bucks County Anxiety Center, Newtown, PA gives us the reasoning that when persons with severe anxiety need reassurance they often times perform ritualistic behaviors. This person is helped through frequent self-determined images of things going well or terribly wrong.
24% The next day I saw 4 yellow cars in a row on the way to school, which made it a Black Day, so I didn’t eat anything at lunch and I sat in the corner of the room all day and read my A-level Maths course book.
I have had 2 Black Days in a row I’m allowed
to do that. But it wasn’t the end of it because five days later I saw 5 red cars in a row, which made it a Super Good Day, and I knew that something special was going to happen.
End of excerpts from the book.
REFERENCES used are:
Byrd, Esq., K. & Payne, R. (2018). Lighting Up Family Law in Blue: Autism’s Impact on the Family & Family Courts. KBYRD.JDWFU2013@gmail.com
Wolff,J., Hupp,S., & Symons, F. (2012). Brief Report: Avoidance Extinction as Treatment for Compulsive & Ritual Behavior in Autism; Journal of Autism & Developmental Disorders; V43, p1741-1746.